When I get that feeling, I need sexual healing

1) A twenty-something guy came over a while ago. We had a lot of foreplay and oral fun, and I believe I made the mistake of wanting him to stay and cuddle. First, me? cuddle? This is new. I used to be glad to get the guests out of the bed so I could sleep. I feel like any sexual or physical attraction was probably lost by my aura of desperation.

2) A guy comes over for a trick from Grindr (iPhone app). I should have been suspicious when he didn't ask for a phone number. He drives through snowfall on a Saturday, at least a 25 minute drive. He comes upstairs and sits on the end of my bed. He has a boyfriend. He does not know if his boyfriend is cheating on him. He has never cheated on his boyfriend before. He complains that they do not go out much. Is it weird to feel less attractive that I am not so hot that, even being his first time at adultery, he would be able to control his sexual urges? I asked him when the last time they had sex was.

"Two weeks ago," he replies.
"Well, you're not starving for it." I, apparently, am only appetizing for the starving. "We don't have to have sex." I offer up the option of watching an episode from season 1 of GLEE, which he had mentioned never watching, which just makes me think if he and his boyfriend are homebodies, they certainly are not very good homebodies if they cannot make the time to watch GLEE. More significantly, I must be so desperate for a cuddle in bed with someone who does NOT want to cheat on his boyfriend that I am willing to forego the sex altogether. This does not bode well for 2010.